Breakups are hard. Really hard. And if you have an anxious attachment style, they can feel absolutely devastating—like the rug has been pulled out from under you and you’re left spinning without an anchor. It can be tempting to scramble for control—ruminating, obsessing, even stalking—just to try to ease the pain. The truth? A breakup is not just something to “get through.” It’s an opportunity—a painful one, yes—but also a chance to meet yourself in a new way, learn important lessons, and create the conditions for healthier love in the future.

Most of us know the importance of self-love in theory—but actually liking ourselves? That can feel far trickier. We often spend our energy on personal growth, career goals, and relationships without realising that our relationship with ourselves shapes everything else.

The truth is, liking yourself isn’t about being perfect or achieving more—it’s about building a kinder, more accepting connection with the person you spend every single moment with: you.

Here are some of the key insights and strategies for truly liking yourself more.