Letting go of someone you love is one of the hardest things anyone can do. But if you have anxious attachment patterns, it can feel almost unbearable. That’s why this question — How do I let go of someone I still love? — is one of the most common things I support people with. If you’re in that place right now, please know this: you’re not weak, broken, or failing. You’re responding exactly as your attachment system has learned to respond. And still… letting go may be what your healing is calling you toward.

As we approach the beginning of a new year, many of us find ourselves sitting in a strange in-between space. There’s reflection on what’s been, anticipation of what could be, and often a quiet (or not so quiet) awareness that something needs to change. New Year’s energy can be complicated. On one hand, it can feel arbitrary or pressure-filled — as though the calendar flips and we’re suddenly meant to reinvent ourselves overnight. On the other hand, when approached with intention rather than shame, this time of year can offer a powerful pause point. A moment to reflect, clarify, and decide how we want to move forward. If you’re on the cusp of change — or have been circling the same decision for a long time — here are three hard truths about changing your life that may help orient you toward courage, self-trust, and forward motion.