If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling over a relationship, asking “Is this just my anxious attachment… or is something actually not okay here?”—you’re in very good company. This is one of the most common questions I hear from people with anxious attachment patterns. And it makes sense, because when you’re used to feeling insecure, overwhelmed, or unsure in relationships, it can be incredibly hard to tell what’s coming from you… and what’s actually about the dynamic you’re in. So let’s unpack it.

#246: When Is It a Good Idea to Be Friends with an Ex? (Ask Steph)