Few questions feel heavier than “Should I stay, or should I go?” If you’re sitting with uncertainty about your relationship—wondering whether to keep trying or to walk away—I want to start by acknowledging how complex and emotionally loaded that position can be. Especially when there are shared histories, homes, finances, or children involved, this decision can feel impossibly layered and conflicted. There is no universal right answer here. And no one else can make this call for you. What can help, though, is slowing things down and creating space for honest reflection—so your decision comes from clarity and integrity, not fear, panic, or obligation. Below are 10 questions designed to support that process.

Let’s start with a collective exhale. If you’ve ever woken up after a night out, checked your phone, and felt that full-body cringe when you realised you drunk texted your ex—please know this: you are human. You are not broken, weak, or uniquely embarrassing. You’re also very much not alone. This is one of those experiences that feels intensely personal and shame-inducing, yet is incredibly common—especially after a breakup, when emotions are still raw and self-control can be fragile. So let’s talk about what to do after the drunk text—without spiralling into shame.