When we think about “dependency” in relationships, it often carries a negative connotation. We imagine clinginess, neediness, or losing ourselves in someone else. But what if dependency—done well—is actually essential for healthy relationships? In a recent conversation with therapist and bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab (inspired by her new book The Balancing Act), we explored what it really looks like to move out of relational extremes—like codependency or hyper-independence—and into something far more sustainable: Healthy interdependence. Let’s break down what that actually means—and how to start cultivating it.

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